I have to remind myself often that people will hear and understand things from their level of perspective, or from their level of growth.
I came across an incident with someone that I did not really take as negative, or I did not perceive it as a mean gesture. Not sure if I just felt the pain and sadness behind the comments or if I am just naive. I commented out of love and I believe it was meant that way, but before I knew it I was unfriended. No, I am not upset. I guess I am sad for the friend that it involved.
One important thing to remember is that people's reactions rarely have anything to do with you. If people get angry with comments and very quickly react negatively without any discussion, questions or explanation, they most likely are not ready to dig deep and figure out why that struck a nerve. People can be so angry, unhappy or resentful because of their life situations that they cannot notice that the choice for change is theirs and it's not someone else's fault.
Yes, I do understand. I have been there. Several years back I was extremely unhappy and the easiest thing to do was to blame someone else for my situation. Sure, that is way easier than doing the growing needed to realize that we are the only ones truly in charge of our lives. Yes, situations happen that we can't control, but we CAN control our reactions to them. In order to do that, we need to look at ourselves and understand why the pain is there, and yes it’s hard. As Eckhart Tolle says: "Accept- the act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it." And it’s true that doing that will change your life.
When I started studying and learning what is in my heart and in my soul, and begun my personal growth, I realized that we are in charge of our own lives. We attract the energy we put out into the world. We need to dig deep to understand ourselves and not blame others. And, we have to be ready for the consequences when we do that, since those that no longer match our level of growth, our frequency, will probably no longer be part of our lives.
All this is hard work. If it was easy, everyone would do it, right? All I can say is that the work is totally worth it.