Perception

I have to remind myself often that people will hear and understand things from their level of perspective, or from their level of growth.

I came across an incident with someone that I did not really take as negative, or I did not perceive it as a mean gesture.  Not sure if I just felt the pain and sadness behind the comments or if I am just naive.  I commented out of love and I believe it was meant that way, but before I knew it I was unfriended.  No, I am not upset.  I guess I am sad for the friend that it involved.

One important thing to remember is that people's reactions rarely have anything to do with you.  If people get angry with comments and very quickly react negatively without any discussion, questions or explanation, they most likely are not ready to dig deep and figure out why that struck a nerve.  People can be so angry, unhappy or resentful because of their life situations that they cannot notice that the choice for change is theirs and it's not someone else's fault.

Yes, I do understand.  I have been there.  Several years back I was extremely unhappy and the easiest thing to do was to blame someone else for my situation.  Sure, that is way easier than doing the growing needed to realize that we are the only ones truly in charge of our lives.  Yes, situations happen that we can't control, but we CAN control our reactions to them.  In order to do that, we need to look at ourselves and understand why the pain is there, and yes it’s hard. As Eckhart Tolle says: "Accept- the act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.  Always work with it, not against it." And it’s true that doing that will change your life.

When I started studying and learning what is in my heart and in my soul, and begun my personal growth, I realized that we are in charge of our own lives.  We attract the energy we put out into the world.  We need to dig deep to understand ourselves and not blame others.  And, we have to be ready for the consequences when we do that, since those that no longer match our level of growth, our frequency, will probably no longer be part of our lives.

All this is hard work.  If it was easy, everyone would do it, right?  All I can say is that the work is totally worth it.

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It takes work…

It takes work to have the life you were meant to have. Working hard at a job and making lots of money is not what I am talking about. I’m talking about the work to unlearn a lifetime of belief systems. The work to learn about yourself, the real you. To watch your thoughts, your emotions, behavior, and dig deep to figure them out.
One of the simplest things I think people can do to start is meditate. Most say that they tried it and can’t do it because their mind is too busy. I believe that is exactly the reason why you should do it! The more you do it the better you will be at it (that’s why they call it a practice!). There are several places you can find guided meditations with music that will give you mantras to repeat (like on YouTube).  I personally started meditating with the Deepak Chopra & Oprah 21 day Meditation Experience (new ones are available for free a few times a year, as of today you can still access day 8 of the latest one). I found them extremely helpful and easy to follow. The purpose of meditation is not to completely clear your mind, but as you have thoughts surface just let them be and pass through. It can be as simple as focusing on your breath!
Give yourself a month of meditating and see what happens. You may be surprised at the change in you!  I bet you will like the change!

“Mindfulness” 16″x20″ Acrylic on Canvas

Believe

Sometimes everything feels so hopeless, and we are not sure what to do to make things better. I think one of the most important things is try to change how we look at things. What if we looked for the silver lining? The positive in the negative situation. There are times that even that may seem too difficult. I found that I had to change my outlook toward life. I found that when it was hard to see the positive, I would have certain things that would guide my thoughts to a more positive place. For me, that was thinking about something I love to do, a photo of a place I love, a family photo, or something that made me smile and reminded me that everything would be ok. Slowly we do believe. We can learn to heal ourselves and find what we love, and when we do that, slowly things get on the right path again.
Now I can look back at the big picture and realize that everything is better than I ever imagined it could be, and I know there’s more to come.
Love every moment and believe…

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When Day Became Night…

The solar eclipse we had recently felt very powerful to me. I feel like it was trying to relay with it’s energy for us to pay attention. It seems like the eclipse started a wave of natural disasters and other things happening that we should take a serious look at. I think we are needing to take a look at our humanity, the way we treat others and our earth. I don’t think there’s any question that our earth is angry right now, but many of us are not paying attention. It’s time….

“When Day Became Night” 24″x30″ Acrylic on Canvas

Learning Compassion

Is it impossible to change our minds? I know personally I used to think quite differently about several things, until I learned to see things from another perspective. When you are able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, you realize that things are not as simplistic or black & white as people have made them out to be.
What does it take to make people notice what is really going on? When there’s frustration and you notice that no one is listening and everyone has their head buried in their thoughts or belief systems, how do you get attention on your plight? Your suffering and the suffering of others? That is one reason people protest. To get attention to their plight.
I guess I would love to know if there’s a way to help someone find compassion inside themselves. To really feel what someone else is feeling. If people could truly feel the suffering of others this world would be a much different place.
I guess some of my big changes in perspective came when I started painting. I often say that I don’t know if painting led to my personal growth, or if my growth led me to my painting. I feel that the act of painting, for me, is meditative. I reach a space where the energy of feelings and emotions come through on to the canvas. I have also had collectors tell me that my paintings are more about feeling and energy than anything else. They get it, and that makes me grateful for my gift. I hope my paintings touch people enough to awaken them and start to see things differently as well.

“Compassion” 16″x20″ Acrylic on Canvas

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Do you believe in Magic?

Not the hocus-pocus-pull-a-rabbit-out-of-a-hat kind of magic, but the ‘real magic’!

Have you ever had amazing ‘coincidences’ when you are involved in doing something you absolutely love & have a passion for?

I have always known I was going to be an artist, since I was a little kid.  Just waited around till things were going to be ‘perfect’ so I could start working at it.  Well, eventually I got tired of waiting and with encouragement I started ‘doing’.  I decided to ‘be’ an artist about 17 years ago, but I would say the last 7 years I have been truly serious about it.  I do go through ups and downs in my creating periods, but I know how to make my magic happen.

I noticed that when I go through periods of not painting much, work would not sell, or there did not seem to be interest in my work.  When I paint, or spend a lot of time at the studio, magically interest in my work comes out of nowhere! I will have people I don’t know contact me to buy artwork (once someone found one of my business cards in a parking lot, picked it up and ended up buying 2 paintings!), I will get invited to do shows I have not submitted to, or get contacted by a tv station to do a story on my work.  Coincidence??? I think it’s magic!

I believe when we are truly aligned with our life purpose, with our truth, the universe helps us by placing magic in our path.

Try it out!!!  Pay attention to the little awesome coincidences that happen as you are loving life.  Yep, that’s Magic!!

“Finding the Magic” 8″x10″ Mixed Media on Canvas

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The Comfort Zone…

Comfort zone. Sounds safe, predictable, familiar… and boring. Sure, some people may be happy in that zone, but what if you were brave enough to go outside that zone?
The unknown is scary. Why? Why are we wired to be afraid of what we don’t know? All those “what if’s” will keep us from truly living our life.
What if I fail? But, what if I don’t fail?? What if I succeed?
What will people think? But, why does it matter what people think??
All our life experiences shape us, our childhood experiences make us crave security or freedom, depending on what we go through. My whole life I have craved that security, to be safe and taken care of. But really, ‘Life’ was telling me something else all along! I always felt different and alone, shipped off to different relatives at a very early age. I just wanted love, comfort and security, but it seemed that when things were comfortable life had different ideas for me.
I believe that the universe was preparing me, because it knew that I would be independent, take care of others and be strong. It wasn’t till my life turned upside down a few years ago that I was able to see that all the roles I played, the person I thought I was and what others saw, were not the real me. I had to have my mind stop in order for my soul to show me the ‘real me’.
All I know so far is that every ‘unknown’ I have experienced the last few years has been anything but scary in the long run! They have been the best experiences and decisions I have made in my life! It makes me wish I would have known things sooner!! But even knowing that, making big decisions are still scary. But I am glad I now know to just look past that fear and just keep taking those leaps of faith.

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Crazy World…

“…something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point when our knees hit the floor.” ~ Marianne Williamson

Sometimes it feels like nothing makes sense anymore. From the political climate, to mother nature, it feels like the world has gone mad. Why is all this happening? I believe the universe is screaming at us to wake up!
I think everything (really everything) has gotten out of sync. There are too many people so deep in their heads, so unconscious to what is truly real, that the only way they will wake up is for their world to fall apart.
Why do we as humans have to reach a point of falling apart before we awaken?
We are at such a divided place as a country. People are being manipulated like pawns in a game, being played by people with power-hungry egos. What can change people’s thinking at this point, when we are so afraid to admit we may have been wrong? We are so afraid to admit that what we believed our whole lives was wrong.
Catastrophic things happen. Disasters are equal opportunity. Disasters don’t care about your race, social standing or money. In the middle of a disaster everyone is at the same level.
In the middle of chaos, the mind stops. When you can’t think anymore something else takes over. Your inner being, inner voice, your soul. THAT is the real you. Listen to it. Experience the world from that place, not with your mind.
Notice that at that moment that people that you may have judged, condemned or hated are still willing to help you and show you compassion. Talk to people, get to know people different than you, love people. THAT will change the world. LOVE.

“Crossroads” 30″x30″ Acrylic on Canvas

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